Parental guidance

A child is more than money. Why are we careless with our children but careful with our money? Children are the greatest gift from God. As a parent, God has given you the privilege to raise and teach a child. You train your child young what you want him or her to become. Children should be taught how to grow up, they can't grow up on their own. Don't expect a child to be what they are not. God gives children the patents they need in order to become the people they're supposed to be. Wishing other parents or children is a sin.

Many times we teach them by our own lives. God had entrusted you with the task of bringing the child up. Don't bring up a child under threats. Threats are cruel and leave the child fearful and worried. Threats are not fair and are immoral. You can't build anything by threatening, you can only build a child by love. Encourage your child to do better. Teach your child responsibility. Don't confuse material for love. Spoiling and love are two different things.

A child makes a parent a better person. Every child helps a parent improve their character. You learn patience, acceptance, tolerance, flexibility, generosity, how to be joyful and giving as well as to accept who you are. Learn to be the best and you yourself will be the best to your children. Your daughter should be your best friend, you mother. Your son should be your best friend, you father. Every child needs guidance so they don't make mistakes. When they make mistakes, they need love and warmth. Never compare your children to anyone else.

When your child asks you to talk, stop everything and listen. When you close the door for your child to come confide in you, you have lost your child. You don't build anyone by criticising them. Stop looking for difficulty in your child and start looking for the opportunity in your child. Stop trying to toughen your child because you will end up destroying them. As a mother, you don't go by what the uncle or aunt say. Speak to your child and understand them. Never label your children and don't allow anyone to label your children. Stand up and defend your children from those who try and label them. A child with a good family foundation can never be broken down. Words stay until death. Some words are not to be spoken. Today you have to forgive yourself and your children. [Prophet Philip Banda]